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The simple answer is yes. One must truly understand what love is and what it means to be "in love". As I understand it, love is a complicated issue that can't be summed up in one sentence or generalized to satisfy the general populous of society. Love is more than an emotion. Love can be felt, given, desired and is a concept that is made up of many other elements such as compassion, understanding, sensitivity, affection, sexuality, trust and even sacrifice and pain. There is no rule book or standard code governing who one can or should love or how many one can love at a time. The human heart is a complex application and as we only use 10 to 30% of our brain capacity, we've only begun to understand the depth of the human heart, not to mention the Heart of God. Even understanding of the human psyche is incomplete, disputed and can not be generalized. We are all as unique and respond to our environments and our stimuli uniquely as a fingerprint.
We are programmable and vulnerable animals of subjective intellect. I may adopt or be conditioned to respect a philosophy or code of monogamy or we can live a less religiously or culturally restrictive life and with an open non-prejudice spirit that is receptive and giving of oneself to more than one partner. This is not just lust! If your emotion and thoughts are invested into more than one person and you wish to be with both of them because of what they both offer emotionally, physically, mentally and spiritually then that's just the way you feel weather you parents or your friends or your preacher or the presidents thinks it's right or wrong.
I have myself been in love with more than one person at the same time. They were best friends and for almost 2 years the 3 of us were very close and nearly inseparable. I'll call them "L" & "B". L was my girlfriend that I was madly in love with for many reasons. She introduced me to her best friend B and we kicked it off instantly. B quickly became my best friend. They both possessed similar qualities that I appreciated and adored in both but also had unique characteristics that I cherished. I soon found myself having a great amount of love and compassion and affection for both of them. I wanted to protect them both and became very emotionally vulnerable to them both. I told them both that I was in love with both of them and it was difficult for everyone at first. We talked it out and came to a mature understanding. I was even sexually attracted to both of them and almost had a manage tux. I never did hook up with B but the fact of the matter is that I WAS IN LOVE WITH THEM BOTH! I have been sexually attracted to or lusted after more than one woman at a time and have not been in love with any of them. I am a man, of course. But this situation was unique. And I am not the only person who feels this way.
Most people are programmed with a Judaio-Christian, Republican mind set that says you have to be a monogamist but the truth is that there are a multitude of cultures and religions that support and defend my argument much more impressively than I, with more grace and clarity. You must find the truth for yourself and know if you can cope with that type of lifestyle and if your potential partners can as well.
Answered by Wise Ali on July 22, 2008
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